How To Hold Your Marriage Together.
Author Dr. James. A McBean. D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
O ne of the reasons why people get lost and are left stranded on our vast high way; each day, is due to the fact that they did not take a map and do a study of the route they must take before they leave home. You might ask” what is the purpose of this? Well, I sit down and do a research on failed marriages, and bust up relationship. I found out that if those people did receive some kind of information long before they get married, their marriage could have been saved. A Marriage is a lifelong investment, it is not cheap either, one ring, one wedding gown, entertainment of guests, all this can mount up in the thousands, and leave a couple indebted even before they started out. Five years after my marriage, we were still paying some kind of bills that we did not even know about.
This is a teaching manual. It will not go into details on something. This is where personal research comes in. I have done a few books’ base on marriage that has a lot of information in its pages. However, I found out that many people who get married did not get any pre marital council, nor do any snap course on the subject before they got married. Due to this lack of information, their lives are tangles up, down the road of time.
Men and women do not understand each other like how they profess. For example, a woman is concerned on how cute she looks, while the man is more concern on her attitude and her availability. One cannot live with people if you do not understand them. And to understand people, you have to draw upon somebody else experience. If you wait to step in the mess by yourself before you believe that mess is lying by the roadside, you will step in a lot of mess. Many black American women got married to Jamaican men and have a successful marriage, at the same time equal amount have bad experience. In addition, the reasons for the bad experience are that these women did not do a study on the Jamaican culture. You need to know about the culture your mate is coming from. In the USA, black women take the leading role because long time down the road they were quicker to get employment than the men, and “he who carry the purse rule the home.”
In Jamaica, the men take the leading role, because the men work and support the wife and children. The Jamaican men walk in froth while his wife walks behind him or beside him. But he is the head of his family or any day he find out that he is not the head he will leave. If you do not agree with the culture do not bother to married to the men, it is not going to work.
The Calm Before The Storm.
Problems will never rise before the marriage; if it does, it is a rare case. It is after the marriage that all the bad habits are going to show its ugly head. What was cute and funny during the courtship and engagement period, the same thing is dumb and stupid after the marriage. You might never hear your intended spouse pass a gas, nor pig out around the dinner table. But wait until the marriage, is over, all the lady-ism and the gentlemen-ism is thrown through the windows.
I want to assumed that you already had an occupation in place are learning one. I also want to assume that you have read many of my books about marriages. I also want to assume that you are not scared of Bible verses, because we will be using them. Do not come into the relationship to get happy, you must come with your own happiness. Have your own self-esteem. Do not come looking to get these from another person. Dump out the baggage from the previous bad relationship. Get healing for that emotional cut. Leave all your bad experience out, of this new relationship. Bury the dead dog, and burn the dead cat, but do not bring them over..
The Secrets On how To Hold Your Marriage Together.
Married to somebody who is an overcome. What I mean by overcome. Somebody who is not govern by self-seeking. A person who is not ruled by feelings and urges. A person who is not quickly to condense to old grudges and spites. To find this person, the Holy Spirit must reveal the person to you. This lead you back to learn to communicate with the Holy Spirit, the genuine Holy Spirit and not the fake ones that operate in some churches. Study and seek to know the written word the scriptures. Learn to know the spirit of God. Then this will help you to see what people you are getting yourself involve with.
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Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him, while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
Do you repent of your sins before God and Man, and do you embraces Jesus as your savior? If the answer is yes! By the power invested in me, by the Church, and by the Holy Ghost. I pronounce you forgiven of your sins. Acts 2:21 And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
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My version of Christianity is from Ethiopia, not the Christianity of the Americas. Ethiopian Orthodox. The Christianity that Philip the Evangelist brought to the Ethiopian eunuch, and which the eunuch brought back to Ethiopia, and they practice for thousands of years.
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