"HOW TO GET THAT MAN
REGARDLESS OF YOUR WEIGHT"
Copyright © 1998 by J.A.Mcbean. Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
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The line between those who have and those who have not is know how, and putting what you learn into practice. In this article I do not intend to say what is Wright nor what is wrong, I am only stating the facts and my encouragement.
This article is written to give women who think that they are fat some help. Before we go on in this article I must say” Never trash yourself, nor let any one trash you. We use a proverb in Jamaica. “ Every hoe have their own handle in the bush.” That mean, every man or women have a mate some place, you just need to seek it out.
DOING THINGS THE RIGHT WAY.
I heard many heavy set women complains that men rejected them because of their weight, at the same time I see man heavy set women married have children and are living a successful lives.
There are equal amount of men that like heavyset women, in comparison to those who do not like them. Women get pass over because of their perceptions, their attitudes, and mannerism not because of their weight. For example, a man come quoting a woman, she begin to play hard to get, if he email her some never return the email, he phone call her she never return his call. Some women think that men must invite them out, why can’t you invite him out also? The man must make the approach for sex, why cannot she make approaches also? Women walking down the street in revealing clothing but feel vex when men look. A woman will expose herself for men to look at her stuff then feel vex when the man want sex.
I saw many heavy set women, that look real good, if a man look in their directions, they give him the attitude like” What you looking at? How do you expect to get men when you feel insulted because they look? “All men want is sex” Where are you going to get a man that do not want sex? The man just love me for my “P” what do you want with a man that do not love your body? What can a man offer a woman if he does not love all of her body, including the “P” part?
MEN TODAY ARE SCARED OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT CHARGES.
Therefore, a woman that want a man have to be more aggressive, to pull men out of their scariness.
DIFFERENT GROUP OF MEN.
There are different groups of men. A woman must know what group a man falls into before set out to get him. If you are playing for keeps, you should know what group of men to go after and what group is available to you. If you are looking for a husband, you cannot go put yourself among the group of men that taste the vagina and run.
“ LOOKS ORIENTATED GROUP OF MEN”
For example, some men are looks orientated; they want a woman with long hair, clear skin, slender like movie star. A woman who looks will make him the man look good. When he is driving down the road and have such a woman sitting beside him, he feel good, or feel like he is special to have such a woman. This group of men will never go with heavyset women. Unfortunately, these are the men that heavy set women is trying to get, or else they would not so worry about their looks.
“THE MEN FOR HIRE GROUP”
This group of men, is in it for the money, any woman that can pay the bill, this group will go with. Some people call them goal digger, men that are looking for sugar mamma, woman that will work and take care of them. This group will go with any women that can turn out the money.
“MAMMAS MAN”
Mammas man wants a woman just like his mother, to pick up after him and do every thing for him like his mother. If he moves in with a woman, he might not want to go look a job nor learn a trade.
FAMILY ORIENTATED MAN.
This group wants to fall in love and get married. He wants a family. Job going and church going type of person. This has no time for playing around. Long drawn out courtship that never seems to be going anywhere. Many women seem to miss out on this kind of men, because women love to be seen in pursuit by men. Cat and mouse mentality will turn off this kind of men.
SEX ORIENTATED GROUP OF MEN.
This is another group of men that will go with almost any kind of women. This group zero in on heavy set women, because they believe that this group of women is not getting any sex, and will be willing to take care of things.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LOVE ME FOR NOTHING.
Men come to women because they have a need for woman, if the man need whatsoever that it, is not taking care of he will leave. Women came to men because they have needs, make sure that your need is the solution for the man’s need. One of my family member only want a man to take her out for dinner, and to the movie, but no sex involves. Because accordingly to her she lost that desires. This woman could still find men, but she must look for the right group that will meet her needs. The men for hire, or escort group of men would do well for her.
THERE IS DIFFERENT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP.
We have the marriage kind of relationship, one man one woman, depends on which part of the world you are living in. Then! There is the booty call kind of relationship. = we call each other use each other and each other go their way. There is the sweet heart kind of relationship. We also have the “ Shared kind of relationship. This is when more that one woman shares the same man. If a man has a woman already and another woman is trying to cut in, she is coming in to share it. Do not pretend that you did not know that he has a wife, and that he lies to you. You know that, which kind of man could never be running around loose; he must have a woman somewhere.
You the woman must decide on what kind of relationship you are looking, and find out what kind the man are offering. If the man already has a woman living with at home or has a wife, it is either a sweet heart kind of relationship he is offering are a booty call thing.
A man that move out on his wife for another woman will move out on that woman also when a better woman turns up.
HOW TO KEEP THE MAN BASE ON BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES.
Proverbs 24:3 (KJV) Through wisdom is a house builded; and by understanding it is established:
GOD ESTABLISH THE HUSBAND TO BE THE HEAD OF THE WIFE.
1 Cor. 11:3 (KJV) However, I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Ephes. 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Smart women choose a man that they find worthy to be their head. Power struggle is the number one killer of marriages, and by choosing a good head, you do not need to fight verbally all the time of who is in control. A good head will use the best suggestions and not necessarily be a lord God.
THIS MEN YOU WILL NOT LET OTHERS TRASH TALK YOUR HUSBAND.
Titus 2:4 (KJV) That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
The second killer of relationship is a woman’s woman friends. Women do not like to see when another woman got lucky. Sometime even the woman’s mother is having the son in law on the side. The sister, the cousins. If they all cannot taste the man, they split up the marriage.
STUBBORN WOMEN NEVER ABLE TO KEEP A MAN.
1 Peter 3:1-6 (KJV) Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; [2] While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. [3] Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. [5] For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: [6] Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
CHAT BOX WOMEN NEVER ABLE TO KEEP A MAN.
1 Tim. 3:11 (KJV) Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
WOMEN WHO DO NOT LOVE SEX WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO KEEP A MAN.
1 Cor. 7:2-5 (KJV) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise the wife unto the husband.
[4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. [5] Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Sex is a natural part of human biology, and if you have a problem with that, then the sister and cousin and friends will always have your man.
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US:
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN:
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD:
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM:
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM:
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM:
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD:
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM:
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY:
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER:
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY:
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU:
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD:
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING:
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF:
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, AND FIND A GOOD CHURCH:
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN:
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY:
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
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