MISTAKES PEOPLE MADE
THEN BLAME IT ON GOD.
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
I n the job market today, no employer employs anybody without first made them filled out an application, and do a back ground check on the person. Yet a woman will have three young daughters from a previous relationship, and move in with a man she has done no background check on, she has not meet his family, she do not know where he worked, she do not know if he has any disease, or even if he is a serial killer that is wanted.
She move him in base on his looks, charms, sweet words and penis. Later on when he begin messing with her children and tied up her life, she ask "why God? where were you?"
It turns my stomach each day to hear people complain about the letdowns that they suffer. Then they ask “Why God?” Where was God?” Why me lord?” If you did not do any thing to protect yourself and family why should God do any thing? You might have heard the phrase" God help those who help themselves"
Luke 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?
One black lady from one of our churches married this clear skinned man. There were many good brothers in the church that wanted her, but she wanted a clear skinned collard person, nothing is wrong with that. But since you are going to be married to this person, sleeping and kissing up with him, you should want to know about the person medical background.
“Syphilis” A sexual transmitted disease that can be hidden in the body for years then suddenly emerges again. Sickle cell can be in the person bloodline. You mean that you are so much in love with a person that you want to married to them without knowing the facts? You do not want to know what they got?
A man a can be a child molester, and has commit several crimes against children in his past. A man can be a woman beater, a con man. He could even be bisexual and have the aids virus, are you telling me that you are so much in love that you do not want to know what you are getting into?
BACKGROUND CHECK.
It is a matter of IQ to talk about certain facts. If the person refuses to talk about certain facts, this is an indication that something is wrong with this person, he she has something to hide and they are not coming clean. Therefore, you should not feel sorry if this person turn tail and ran of. Let him go, do not shed any tears over such a person, praise God, get up and love again.
DO NOT BLAME GOD NOR PEOPLE FOR YOUR BAD DECISIONS.
Do not make bad decisions that blame others.
NEGOCIATE THE RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU MOVES ON.
negotiate >verb 1 try to reach an agreement or compromise by discussion. 2 obtain or bring about by negotiating. 3 find a way over or through (an obstacle or difficult path). 4 transfer (a check, bill, etc.) to the legal ownership of another. -DERIVATIVES negotiation >noun negotiator >noun. -ORIGIN Latin negotiari 'do in the course of business'.
In the world of business, it is not what you deserve you get, but what you negotiate for.
LOOK BEFORE YOU JUMP
Whenever, two people move in together, there is certain amount of their personal rights that you have to give up. Now you will have to negotiate how much you keep.
People had different need, and different expectation, you should find out what the person need are. Find out the person sexual preferences, you will want to know what you are getting into. Find out if the person can end a relationship without violence. Just ask them flat out, because if you are not happy you will want to get out, without you both kill each other. You do not want to get into something that you cannot pull out of if need be. Also if you are an entertainer, and have to do nude dancing, you wanted to know if that is ok with him/her. You do not want your mate to be your shadows always standing watching like a body guard. You want to know if you can quit, without you after spent money to get a hit man. Decide on what kind of relationship you both are getting into, if it is a public relationship of a discrete one.
You will need to ask your intended person. If I drive down the roadway and came to a stop light, and women are passing, is it ok if you look without a verbal fight started, or the other person getting offended? “Do you have a look phobia problem? This is one of the things that kill many marriages, and you need to kill this mentality before you move in with people.
Can my school friend call me? Can I put down my cell phone without you going into its memory and call up the numbers in it to see who is calling me? Can my children father came over to see his children? Can I offer him a cop of coffee, can he sit down a little and talk with us without you feel that something is going on other that what you saw?
I am a church going person, and pray a lot, will this offend you? I drink my bear and smoke will this offend you? I am not promising you that I am going to change.
I have the tendency of getting fat, will this offend you if I go up to 160 pounds? Can I save my own money in my own account? After I take care of my obligations, can I do what I want with my money without you being offended? I am a school going person, will this offend you? “I am a go, go dance and have to entertains my clients, will this offend you?” I am a Christians and spent money on gospel tracts, and sent money over seas as charity, will this offend you?”
IN THIS WORLD, PEOPLE NEED SPIRITUAL HELP.
Ephes. 6:12 (KJV) For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
There are demonic host that we have contending with. You cannot just reject the council of God. Some people get themselves in bad company. They flush their own lives down toilets, they take up habits they cannot maintain, they blame it on God when the bounce back came.
JABEZ WS BLESS BECAUSE HE WAS MORE HONORABLE.
1 Chron. 4:9 (KJV) And Jabez was more honourable than his brethren: and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, Because I bare him with sorrow. 1 Chron. 4:10 (KJV) And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, Oh that thou wouldest bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast, and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me! And God granted him that which he requested.
“ Showing honor and Integrity. Adhering to ethical and moral principles. Had the moral courage to stand alone.
Acts 17:10 (KJV) And the brethren immediately sent away Paul and Silas by night unto Berea: who coming thither went into the synagogue of the Jews.
Acts 17:11 (KJV) These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so.
1 belonging to the aristocracy. 2 having fine personal qualities or high moral principles. 3 imposing; magnificen
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearer’s Of The “Mind Sword”
