People feel the needs to have an affair, because their needs have not been satisfied by their present marriage are relationship. In the book "Politics and people" Page 16. Robert Townsend talk of people and their needs. "Townsend talks about an idea developed by social scientists. It is called" Theory of human values" According to his theory, if you want people to do their best, you have to understand their needs. #1 All people have needs.#2 The way we act are determined by needs that are not yet satisfied. #3 Our needs form a sort of ladder. Until a person's needs have been satisfied on a lower level, he or she won't be interested in satisfying needs on a higher level.

DISCONTENTMENT AND HARD FEELING.

Many affair did not started out on sex, it started on wanting somebody who you can talk to. Believe me are not, men are not the causes of many affair, a man in his right mind truly do not want to start an affair. Because an affair is very expensive to a man. A man is not as unfaithful as it seem to be. If he is in love, satisfied and happy he might not want to have an affair. A man do not like to run around like what it seem. A man will run through many prostitutes until he find one that pleases him. As long as she is available, he will drive pass many until he find his special prostitute. An affair is too expensive for most men, since the man in most cases have to hand over money. Give Valentine day cards, flowers, birth day card. And listen to complains, all this drive him mad. One of the things that causes an affair is discontentment within a relationship are marriage. Discontentment causes hard feelings. Hard feelings can and will hit any marriage. All it take is another person to come and show the spouse what he or she is not getting. This causes them to feel left out. Are that something is missing in the relationship. The seed for discontentment is now planted. Discontentment causes hard feelings. Hard feelings causes a lack of communication. Just try talk to somebody who carrying an hard feeling for you and see how well the conversation went. " I do not understand you"" I cannot hear you"" Do you speak English? You called yourself a collage grad? You are not making any sense" Your writing is full of Grammatik errors. This fling the relationship into silence. Silence is just the ingredients a relationship need for an affair to started.

BE REALISTIC.

One of the things that causes an affair, are even broke up marriages is un realisticness. For example. Christian wives/and husbands depend upon the spouse sincerity to Christ to keep them from going to another. People are not sexually sincere as how we sound. If it look good most men will try it out. If It taste good he will keep going there until he got hook. It is important to know that all women is not the same. Some women can give a man more pleasure than some. Many Christians people that I came across daily is not realistic at all. Some of them I just make them win the conversation and continue to kill their own life. To straighten them out is almost impossible.

SEXUAL MANIPULATION.

There is a sexual time clock in every ones body. The couple must try to have these lined up, so the two have feeling the same time each week. During love making there is another time clock, that the couple need to work on" "This is coming together" This is the wife climax the same time her husband ejaculates. If the two people uses sex to manipulate each other. These time clock is mess up. This is another reason for an affair. A sexual time clock that gone wild. The Bible teaches how people suppose to behave in the marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:8-AV I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 1 Corinthians 7:9-AV But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

1 Corinthians 7:2-AV Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3-AV Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:4-AV The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 1 Corinthians 7:5-AV Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.)( One of the things that causes and affair, and sometime broke up marriages is sexual manipulation. The wife and husband uses sex to manipulate each other. This is more a woman practice than a man. The man catch on after a while as the wife keep pulling this same trick on him. Then he started to starve her out also. Saying he is not in the moods. Before long one of them end up in the street.

HOW TO SEX THE SPOUSE.

Remember we talked about needs that are not satisfied, at the beginning of this article? One lady told me that she is braking up with her Christian husband because he cannot touch her good. Some Christian husband is so over righteous that they cannot blend a Guinness stout with a egg and drink. Another one was on fasting for one year. Every week he went on a fasting. And the wife is starving, One day she asked him" Why is it that she cannot be happy? I visited one of my unsaved friend at his house. He laughed and told me that if I did come one hour earlier. I would see a pastor's wife here. She spent the whole week with me, he said" I asked him what is a pastor's wife doing in your house one whole week? He reply that the pastor cannot do his house work. One Christian brother told me that his wife told him to buy Chinese brush. He wanted to know if it is right for a Christian to use it. A man's job is to please the woman. If she wanted to be chastise, chastise her with pleasure. If she wanted to be roped up. Rope her up. Most women is not going to tell her spouse what kind of sex she like. The man will need to try several positions. Any one that seem to turn her fool that is the right one.

Ecclesiastes 7:16-YLTV. Be not over-righteous, nor show thyself too wise, why art thou desolate?

WOMEN'S NINE LEVELS OF ORGASM.

In The book " The Tao of Sex ology" By Dr. Stephen T. Chang. On page 97. Women have nine levels of orgasm. Level one, this is after the man penetrate the woman. The woman lungs activates, she sighs, breathes heavily and salivates. Level two. The woman heart is vigor rate, the woman tongue correspond to her heart, and since she is kissing at this time her heart is helped. Level three. Pancras and stomach is helped. As her muscles became activated, the woman grasps and holds the man tightly. Level four. Her kidneys and bladder is helped. The woman experience a series of vaginal spasms at this time and secretions begin to flow rapidly. Level five. Her bones is helped. The woman's joints loosen and she begins to bite the man. Level six , liver and nerves is helped. The woman undulates and gyrates like a snake, trying to wrap her arms and legs around the man. Level seven. The woman's blood is now boiling and she is frantically trying to touch the man every where. Level eight. Her muscles totally relax. She bites even more and grabs the man's nipples. Level nine. Her entire body is energized. She collapses in a "little death" And is completely surrenders to the man and completely opened up"

This woman whole emotions is invigorated. The next day you saw her even if she is a little hungry, she is much more relax, and peaceful, in comparison to the other woman who is getting nothing. This woman is more healthy and easily get on with than the old wife who is living alone.

TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY.

Coffee and donut cannot make a man nor a woman do their bed work. Both couple have to take care of themselves. The body need rest and relaxation. Unlike a woman, Sensible men find out that their sex drive is not working, they will try to seek help. Some women fall back into denial. Then you hear them say" "All the man them want is sex" are"A so the men that stay" lacking a sex drive is an indication of problem in the body, and a great expensive problem that is coming. A woman want sex because her body is producing the right amount of estrogen. If there is an estrogen deficiency, her sex drive will minimize. This estrogen have a lot more to do with her body than just sex. "Listen To Your Body" By Ellen Michaud, Lila. L Anastas. Page 296- 309. Another good book is. American Medical Association. Complete Guide to Women's Health. Sexual problems 301. A good boob for men is the "Vitamin Bible By Earl Mindell's Page 269-272.

THE DANGER OF AN AFFAIR.